TTC, I find this fascinating. I mean, your response to it.
Let's be clear, though - I am NOT disparaging your opinion at all. In fact, I can respect that. I just find it interesting how some people put that level of humanity on paper and cardboard. Again - it sounds like it but I'm not disparaging it.
I remember someone made a similar comment about the game "Amerika Bomber" by Greg Smith, where you take a German bomber and bomb targets in the USA. This eventually cumulates to potentially dropping a nuke on America, as well. I played the full game and had said nukes available, and dropped one on Chicago. I found the experience...well, not fun per se, but an insight into something I'd not considered before. And I think that kind of insight is equally fascinating. One person said (just a general comment on the game) that they couldn't bear the thought of shooting down and bombing Americans.
I just see it as a sim in paper and cardboard, not as actual flesh and blood. Being a sim means nobody is really getting hurt because of my choices or actions. However, we all have a certain amount of empathy, some more than others, and that's not a comment on a person with more is necessarily better than someone with less; I think it's how it translates within the brain.
Psychology is a fascinating subject to me in general and this in particular is an interesting subject. I wonder if anyone has written on this in any capacity? I will need to do some checking.